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- Parenthood brings unexpected joy through seeing one's youthful self reflected in a child, especially a son, as described in Longfellow's 'Song of Hiawatha'.
- Children inherit not only physical traits but also quirky behaviors and preferences, such as a shared obsession with trains or OCD-like habits, suggesting genetic or environmental transmission.
- Parental traits combine in children in unique ways, like a son's blend of bug aversion and fascination, or a daughter's inherited artistic talent from a grandmother.
- Children display early signs of skills like linguistic creativity, judgmental tendencies, and narrative habits, hinting at future potential as writers or communicators.
- Parenting involves navigating a complex 'feudal' system of negotiated rules and routines, such as bedtime rituals, which reduces conflict but requires consistency and adaptation.
- Online parenting communities can be harshly judgmental, but practical, negotiated approaches with children often lead to cooperation without strict authoritarianism.
- Disadvantages of rule-based parenting include edge-case disputes, the risk of indulgences becoming permanent expectations, and children anthropomorphizing rules onto the universe.