My six stages of learning to be a socially normal person
7 days ago
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- The author describes their journey through six stages of learning to connect with people, starting from being socially awkward to achieving social normalcy.
- Stage 1: Focused on being a dazzling person to gain approval, which was polarizing and distancing.
- Stage 2: Learned to adapt by playing the social game of others, making people comfortable but still a beginner.
- Stage 3: Discovered the power of loosening social scripts and embracing benign strangeness to create connection.
- Stage 4: Achieved greater embodiment and non-verbal awareness, making interactions feel like dancing.
- Stage 5: Realized the impact of projecting love and acceptance, leading to deep, instant intimacy.
- Stage 6: Learned to moderate connection, becoming comfortable with any level of interaction and setting boundaries.