'Like a trap you can't escape': The women who regret being mothers

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Carmen, a mother in her 40s, regrets becoming a mother despite loving her son deeply, citing the immense personal sacrifices involved.
Many women who regret motherhood remain silent due to fear of judgment and societal stigma, often feeling isolated and exhausted.
The film 'If I Had Legs I'd Kick You' highlights the extreme pressures of motherhood, resonating with women like Carmen.
Psychotherapist Anna Mathur notes that maternal regret often stems from isolation, exhaustion, or lost identity, not lack of love for the child.
Israeli sociologist Orna Donath's study emphasizes that regretting motherhood doesn't equate to not loving one's children, challenging societal assumptions.
A 2023 Polish study estimates 5–14% of parents regret having children, with many finding community in online groups like 'I Regret Having Children'.
Financial strain, lost personal ambitions, and the relentless nature of caregiving are common themes among mothers who express regret.
Counselor Margaret O'Connor highlights that younger generations are more deliberate about the choice to have children, recognizing it as optional.
Therapist support can help parents navigate feelings of regret, though for some, these feelings may persist despite efforts to mitigate them.
Carmen has found some peace through therapy, accepting her feelings and prioritizing self-care, which has improved her relationship with her son.

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