Don't be a scary old guy: My 40s survival strategy with charm
14 days ago
- #lifestyle
- #aging
- #charm
- The author, Takuya, shares his survival strategy for his 40s, emphasizing the importance of charm.
- He reflects on turning 41 and how his perception of people in their 40s has changed over time.
- As an indie developer, Takuya enjoys a flexible lifestyle that allows him to spend more time with his child and make 'mom friends' at kindergarten.
- He discusses the concept of 'kanroku' (gravitas or presence) and realizes it often just means looking older.
- Takuya highlights the importance of smiling and being approachable to counteract the intimidating presence of middle-aged men.
- He warns against the loneliness that can come with accumulating achievements, as people may start to keep their distance.
- The author cites Hirohiko Araki as an example of someone who maintains charm despite his success, emphasizing the value of humility.
- Takuya talks about the 'charm of contrast,' where a serious person's smile becomes more impactful.
- He shares how he navigates conversations about his work as a programmer with non-tech-savvy individuals by keeping the interaction light and enjoyable.
- Takuya concludes by expressing his desire to stay humble, learn from younger generations, and embrace new values and cultures in his 40s.