Maybe You're Not Actually Trying
7 days ago
- #personal development
- #agency
- #self-improvement
- The author recounts a personal experience with a persistent cyberstalker and how they initially felt powerless to stop the harassment.
- Despite being capable, the author didn't take action until their husband intervened, highlighting the concept of 'selective agency'—where people may not apply their full capabilities to certain areas of their lives.
- The article suggests that people often remain stuck in past approaches to problems, failing to reassess and apply new strategies as they grow and gain more resources.
- Three 'theaters of life' are identified: work, relationships with others, and relationship with self, with many excelling in one area while neglecting others.
- The author encourages readers to examine their lives for areas where they might be 'frozen in time' and not applying their full potential, urging them to ask if they're 'Actually Trying.'
- The concept of 'faulty sensory appreciation' from Alexander Technique is introduced, illustrating how habitual approaches can feel correct even when they're ineffective.
- The article concludes with a call to action: to critically assess one's efforts across different life areas and ensure that the full range of available resources and strategies is being utilized.